This fear based feeling has become very common and seemingly on the increase and has some-
times been cited a modern day epidemic, in some cases over it can seriously impact a persons life
and ruin not just their mental health but damage their physical health.
The truth is that anxiety is not just a simple issue, it can be very complex and take time to find an
affective solution as you may have come to understand by now.
If it was so simple we could treat it easily and no one would have this problem, some people
struggle with anxiety issues like social phobias and non triggered panic attacks most their lives.
Therapy could help you find a way forward.
Irregular heart beats
Inability to relax
Shortness of breath
What is anxiety?
Anxiety can be a very unpleasant feeling that is a core part of our survival skills. It is actually very
good at keeping us safe or preparing us for future danger. It reduces our level of exposure to dan-
gerous actions or situations and helps us make choices to keep us away from future harmful
When I say harmful, I do not just mean the threat of actual physical harm. That will also include pos-
sible embarrassing or emotionally unpleasant experiences, and situations, that could be embarrass-
ing and discredit your social standing in society.
Anxiety driven response
Any thoughts that raise your level of anxiety to a level that effects how you emotionally react is con-
sidered to be an anxiety driven response, this response is quite normal and everyone feels high
levels of anxiety from time to time, but when the anxiety becomes over active just like an over active
imagination it can start to work against us instead of helping us.
Feeling of Anxiousness are normal
There is an important consideration to remember about feelings of anxiety, if they are actually relev-
ant to your situation, for instance before someone gets married there may be some expected levels
of anxiety that can be seen as being a normal reaction the the situation.
While preparing to get married and there are worries that may be well founded about the future,
such as a lack of trust in the partner, or unresolved issues with the relationship. it will be probably
lead to a growing sense of foreboding or panic as the date approaches.
Anxiety could be a valid warning
In such situations the anxiety could be a valid warning that needs to be addressed, feelings of dread
and/or panic can arise making you feel miserable and you may even start to show symptoms of irrit-
ability and even depression in some circumstances.
It is not always obvious
It is not always obvious why people have anxiety issues, there are so many complex relationships
between how we think and how we feel. but if you feel anxious it may be a valid response, or there
could be an unknown unconscious trigger or fear that is perpetuating the issue. That probably
would need some therapy to help uncover what going on.
The architect of our anxiety
The imagination is probably a major factor in human evolution, without it humans would probably still be living in caves, all
the major advances in the sciences and arts have been made possible by people using their imaginations to solve problems
and create ideas and dreams. Our imagination is able to impact on any part of our life, from sexual arousal and confidence
to relationships and anxiety .
Power the imagination
Even our personal physical abilities can be either enhanced or reduced just by how we think and feel. Have you ever been
scared of the dark or frightened by a film or book? Or been worried when your child is late home, then you can start to un-
derstand the power the imagination has to influence our thoughts and emotions and ultimately how we live life.
With help from online psychotherapy/counselling or hypnotherapy or as I use a combination of many types of therapy, it is
possible to change the way you use your imagination or how thoughts and feeling effect your life.
how we create images and thoughts are automatic and trying not to think of something can have the opposite effect, if I
ask you not to think of a blue balloon you can't, as soon you read the words blue balloon your mind has provided you with
the image in your mind, so if you had a fear of blue balloons your anxiety level would go up slightly, so that is why we need
to understand how we think and feel.
anxiety is not just a silly response
So anxiety is not just a silly response but a complicated effect of several thought processes that include the imagination and
any personal experience of fear, it also has a positive influence that helps keep us safe, anxiety stops us from doing actions
that could put us in danger, like driving to fast or crossing the road without looking. So you could say that there is good
anxiety as well as bad, the good anxiety helps keep us safe while the bad anxiety limits our life.
There are more in depth explanations that will explain in more detail the psychological and physiological state and the
Cognitive & Behavioural Elements of anxiety but I hope this short explanation has given you some idea about your anxiety.
Self help for anxiety
There are some positive steps you can take to help feelings of stress and anxiety.
Identify when where and why
Keep a log or diary for the week keeping a record of how you feel and when, log it down; nothing to complex keep it simple.
Morning time, what thoughts do you have in the morning that is creating anxiety for you, what are the thoughts about,
what upcoming events or situations or people are in your thoughts, write it down.
Mid morning to late afternoon, what actions events or thoughts are crating stress and anxiety in you?
Identify any past experiences
Evening, once again look at what is going on in your thoughts and try to identify any past experiences from the day and
what future events are in your mind for the next day creating the anxiety within you.
After you have completed this self help task for a week or two you can start to look over what you have put down, you may
see what is the main areas of anxiety that are leading to sleepless nights or constant worrying.
What’s driving your anxiety?
If you can identify the main areas that are driving your anxiety you maybe able to either take some action or get advise on
what steps are possible if you are in financial difficulties or worried about health problems.
By taking action you are reducing the unknowns and clarifying the situation leaving less for your imagination to use for
building fear based scenarios that maybe unfounded.
what is driving the anxiety
Personal issues with people can be looked at more clearly and even if you can’t seem to find an answer if can be possible to
bring this into therapy to help discover what the possibilities or problems are.
Seeing what is driving the anxiety you feel can even give clues as to why you have anxiety, self esteem and low self worth
can make us devalue our selves and lower self confidence in some or all areas of working or personal life.
A phobia is an extreme fear based reaction to any number of particular external stimulus, it has a very wide range of sever-
ity from simply avoiding lifts to being totally overwhelmed by fear when seeing any kind of spider, in some extreme cases
the person may experience fainting.
It should never be seen as just silly or stupid, but a fearful experience that will be very upsetting to the person concerned.
COMMON ANXIETY DISORDERS.
There are many anxiety based disorders that can be detrimental to that person’s ability to enjoy life that are based on
Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD)
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Social Anxiety Disorder
Separation Anxiety Disorder
Therapy can help you ask questions and look for answers.
Do I need to change my job or address bullying?
Do I need to make more time for what I need?
Do I need to be more assertive and stop constantly saying yes to others needs?
Is this relationship what I need?
Am I isolating myself and lacking in personal support?
Do I need to do more or less?
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